How to handle an intimidating woman
Now, I don’t expect you to just accept that without some explanation, so let’s drill down a bit and see if I can convince you.The first thing we need to accept is this, we have the power to decide how we are going to feel about any situation.Either way, one thing is clear: You find yourself being passive and unable to speak your truth. According to psychotherapist Michelle Farris, LMFT, “over time, not speaking up makes you feel like a doormat.” This sinks your self-esteem, sets you up to be a victim and makes you feel powerless, she said.“You say yes when you mean no, which leads to resentment and a sense that you’re invisible.This can lead to feeling depressed and devalued.”It might be harder for you to be assertive because you fear “being challenged, shamed, ignored, disregarded or socially excluded,” Hanks said.
Now ask yourself this simple question: There is always some core reason for such strong feelings.
That means that our ego, with all its issues, has been pulled into the equation and we are now vulnerable to external manipulation. If you decide not to play the game, then you don’t ever need to feel intimidated again.
Emotional triggers can be used to take control of people in just about any area you can think of. As soon as you choose not to grant permission to the would be source of intimidation, you render them powerless. They can still rev up their engine, but they really can’t go anywhere.
“The stakes are higher with people you care deeply about, so expressing a difference or a preference can more intimidating because the risk of loss is higher.”“[I]ntimidation, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder,” said Diann Wingert, LCSW, BCD, a therapist and coach with a private practice in Pasadena, Calif.
That is, each of us finds different people intimidating. Wingert helps her clients realize that they can choose to feel secure (instead of intimidated), “regardless of the situation and who else is in it.” Here are six tips to try.1. The first step to being assertive is knowing yourself and your values, said Hanks, director of Wasatch Family Therapy and author of .Any of these situations can seem intimidating, and no sane person seeks out intimidation.